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Happy Thanksgiving, people. Hope you find yourself   somewhere you want to be, with people you like, whose views on gay marriage, Breaking Bad, and the appropriateness of cranberry sauce from a can do not diverge too dramatically from your own. And of course I hope you’ve got lots to be thankful for. I know I do: first and foremost, for a family I actually enjoy spending time with, and then also for Nashville, Homeland (even though it’s getting a little shark-jumpy) Louie, and even Revenge, God help me. I’m grateful to live in a city that comes together instead of apart in times of crisis.  And I’m grateful that F. Scott Fitzgerald was so very dead wrong when he wrote  in The Last Tycoon that there are no second acts in American lives. As a person who spent more than one Thanksgiving so paralyzed by depression that I had to go lie down in another room because the simple act of conversing with others was too much to bear, I am infinitely grateful for life’s ability to change. And as somebody who had what looked like a lot from the outside, but felt like very little indeed on the inside, I can confirm what many of you are figuring out for yourselves as well: there is a second act, and it’s the one where you actually get to get it right.

Mostly this year though, I’m just impossibly grateful to you all. For finding me here, and for being so damn fun and enthusiastic. Your comments and emails never fail to make my day. Now tell me what you’re grateful for. I dig hearing about that type of thing.

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Posted on November 21st, 2012 41 Comments

41 Responses

  1. AmyM says:

    Happy Thanksgiving, Kim! I’m thankful to be employed in a job I (usually)like, living in a new space that’s quickly becoming my favorite place I’ve ever lived, and that I have people in my life who let me know I’m needed and loved. I’m also thankful for you and your amazing Morning Links. You find the absolute best stuff!

  2. Monique says:

    You are so cool! Thank you so much for this great post, for all of them! It’s so fun to come here and read what you have to say! Happy Thankgiving to you!

  3. Amy W says:

    I am thankful that I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that no one in my family likes turkey and een though my Chinese Jamaican in laws don’t celebrate Thanksgiving the way we did in the Midwest, going to a buffet at a seaside resort is really the best way for us to celebrate the day. No dishes, no fights over table settings, and no dress up clothes, because we all head to the beach afterwards.

  4. lisa says:

    I’m glad i found you again after growing up with Sassy and Lucky. Keep it up!

  5. Jill says:

    What an honest post. I had no idea you ever felt that way but can totally relate. It’s been a hard year and I am still in a tough place but am very thankful for those who light my life. Your blog is a beacon of education, fun, and glimpses of a woman whom I think I’d like quite well IRL, as they say. Happy Thanksgiving, Kim.

  6. Lisa Wallace says:

    Mary. Wil. Billy. Victoria. Jeff. Craig. Lisa. Jason. Joanna. Joe. Janice. Betsy. Rowan. Koa. Sophia. Ransom. And so many more. I would eat turkey with any of them any day!

  7. Viajera says:

    I am thankful for my family, my friends (few but high quality), my health, and that I live in a peaceful place.

    Also I am thankful for TCM. “As God is my witness, I’ll never be hungry again!” (It’s on right now in the other room.)

    The world is a mess, but there’s still hope. And you’re right, there is sometimes more room for us in the world than we expect. I wish you all the best, and even more success. I think this world often rewards those willing to explore.

  8. My husband and a good marriage (most days), three insane but loving dogs, good, local food available year-round, the fact that I am lucky enough to be able to work part-time from home, frequent travel to far-off places, the ability to sew my own clothing…I could go on, but that’s the big stuff.

  9. Rebecca D says:

    I, too, am grateful for a family I love to spend time with, for a sister and niece who said “Yes, we will join you in yoga class tomorrow”, for a job I like most of the time, for dear friends who make me think, make me laugh, for a gorgeous day this day, for an amazing community, for a great dog, and lastly, as I say every morning before I get out of bed, I am grateful that I am loved and am capable of loving others. Happy Thanksgiving.

  10. pemora says:

    happy thanksgiving and thank YOU for creating this space for ‘girls of a certain age’. hope you have a wonderful day!

  11. Beth M says:

    I am grateful for my wonderful children, my sisters and other family & friends, and I am grateful for a new job. Thank you, Kim, for this fantastic blog…you make us all feel like we are your friends. Enjoy this day and keep us posted!

  12. Amy says:

    As a woman of a certain age, I’m thankful for excellent health, a family who tolerates weaknesses, a sense of humor, and the fact that it’s totally acceptable for my large extended family to NOT be together at Thanksgiving this year. I’m so grateful for my adolescents who yell, Happy Thanksgiving, at drivers who cut us off and steal our parking spaces, then laugh hysterically. And I’m glad to have found you after way too much time reading Mormon Mommy bloggers and other utopian parenting and lifestyle sites. I do wish I could afford some of the clothes but at least I’m learning what not o buy. Happy T-day to you!

  13. alexa11221 says:

    I’ve had more than one act in my own life, and I’m grateful for that. And grateful to be grateful for all the “usual” things: good friends, family, pets, the ability to overcome.

    I’m also grateful to have found your blog this year. I missed you!

  14. I’m thankful for my wonderful family, stand-up husband, and friends who are OK with Lasagna Bolognese instead of turkey. . Looking for my own 2nd act right about now, glad to know it might be out there.

  15. SueM says:

    I am grateful for people who still use the word “dig” in a sentence, with no irony intended. I am grateful for my family, all stitched together, and the love we use to overcome everything, even the fact that we disagree about almost everything. I am grateful for my health, and my health care. I am grateful that life does offer second, third or fourth chances to us, and that you are one of the coolest chicks ever to write about it, and us. Thank you.

  16. Debra says:

    I’m thankful that despite having a crazy, fucked up family that I have been able to not let my past determine who I am as an adult. I am thankful at 47 for great health, a fantastic son whom I am so proud of, a job I love, and friends who still find me interesting enough to hang around with after all these years :)

    And I’m also really grateful that years ago someone thought it would be a good idea to put just a tiny bit of stretch into jeans.

  17. Carol White says:

    I’m grateful that for the moment there is some sort of peace in the Middle East. I’m thankful for good health and my friends, and my nephews and their families. Thanks for a great blog, Kim, and Happy Thanksgiving. Love that picture.

  18. Robbi says:

    Thankful that my husband of 34 years and I can laugh ourselves to sleep and wake up smiling in the morning, thankful for the loving kindness of our friends (and also their insane senses of humor), thankful that our 3 legged cat is still making her way in the world, thankful for David Simon’s Treme, and yes, I’m thanking you Kim, for your “eye”.

  19. Amanda says:

    Happy Thanksgiving! What a heartfult post. Thank you for your great style and interesting links! I am thankful for my new baby, my husband, family and homemade cranberry sauce.

  20. Linda Kenyon says:

    Happy Thanksgiving! I’m grateful for my husband, daughter, family and friends. For my old Lab and BFF Sophie and our 3 rescues, two Doxies and a “Mystery Mix” and that there’s a big fenced yard for them.
    And, Kim, I love your blog! Keep it coming!

  21. Liza Wyles says:

    Great post Kim! I am thankful that I have a strong network of family and friends who share in my hits and misses. I am thankful for my healthy, precocious children who demand the best of me. And I’m thankful that my contribution to today’s feast was wine and I didn’t have to cook a thing.

  22. Daphne says:

    “There is a second act, and it’s the one where you actually get to get it right.”

    I love that and needed to hear that. I am thankful for supportive family and friends.

  23. Besides the Huz,our family of few people and many more pets, friends and our pitiful but long-lived restaurant, I am grateful for women like you who remind me that we really do reach our best years much later than we originally imagined! I take great comfort from that fact that you really do live where I’d like to, in ways that I’d love to, but that you freely share a lot of the best parts with the rest of us. Morning Links is a really important part of my day. And women like you keep me hopeful, here in Bumfuzzle, Nowhere. Have an extremely happy Thanksgiving!

  24. RJS says:

    I just discovered your blog. Good to hear that “there is life after Lucky.” I’m grateful for the following: a husband who tolerates my mishigos, a sarcastic sense of humor, and the ability to discern, whether a sweater is made from acrylic or cashmere.

  25. I’m thankful for the realization that I am stronger than I thought – whether it has been picking up the pieces after a relationship with a psycho ex (years ago), or getting through Barfageddon 2012 with every member of my family more or less intact (just the other night, as a matter of fact). I am thankful for my three little birds, who, even though they make my life more challenging than I ever thought possible, also bring me more love, joy and happiness than I ever thought I deserved. And my hubby, the calm to my storm, and whom I am eternally grateful to go through this crazy ride we call life with every day.

    Thank YOU, Kim, for being one of my favorite stops on the interwebs. I cherish your intelligence, wit, and compassion.

    Shannan

  26. c.w. says:

    I’m one year six months cancer free. I have a son who made the best vegetarian Thanksgiving dinner ever. I have a daughter who makes me laugh all the time. I have the best puppy dog on the planet. And even though I have to spend most of the year in Texas at least it is Austin and at least I get to spend summers at the beach. And this blog which is always fun to read. Whew, that’s a lot!!

  27. Kim says:

    Well said! I’m so glad you’re writing this blog. I loved you when you were at Lucky, but nothing like this. I actually feel like you’re someone I would be friends with if we knew each other.

  28. Lorimac says:

    I am thankful that I have found this website! I am also thankful for Old Navy where I can buy a cute coat with a ruffle collar in red fleece for under $20 since I know I won’t wear it more than one year (OK, maybe 2). But seriously, I am thankful for my family, my home, living in a country which is not in the middle of a revolution or an invasion, and being affluent enough to have food on the table and a new coat in the closet!

  29. Anne says:

    “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.”

    Meister Eckhart

  30. beth says:

    Among all the things I’m grateful for I’m grateful for you. Someone who actually has an intelligent opinion about fashion and designers and is unafraid and willing to share it.

    Because I love fashion but it is just so dumbed down and I’m tired of being talked at by editorial advertisements.

  31. carmencatalina says:

    I’m grateful that I have clean running water and access to modern medicine. And when everyone else has the same, I’ll be super grateful.

    More mundanely, I’m grateful to have examples of interesting, intelligent, and funny women to make each day a bit better. Thanks for the great blog!

  32. Sofia says:

    In my country we don’t celebrate thanksgiving. I like the idea of thanksgiving, that you spend time being thankful for what you have.

    Although I have never understood how people in America can spend one day being so grateful for everything they have, and the next day (black friday) scream and fight over useless items on sale – that makes me wonder how grateful they really were if the next day is the biggest shopping day of the year?

  33. Nancy says:

    I am grateful for my life in Napa and celebrating Thanksgiving with our own quirky tradition…going to the SF zoo with our 3+5 year olds and getting yummy Chinese food. Your blog is the only one I read…thank you for your humor, honesty and great shopping tips.

  34. gablesgirl says:

    Thanks for your honesty, Kim. Am working through some issues myself but am so happy for my husband, roof over our head, food on the table, great jobs and friends!

  35. lizzie says:

    i am grateful for you bringing my attention to great style, because at 49, it can get dicey quickly. i am grateful for my funny adult children, who all have interesting jobs and lives and love reading. i am grateful i have hardwood floors and a newish kingsize mattress. i am setting the reset button again this year, as my husband is recently unemployed and it is a very scary feeling, especially in your 50′s. but this reminds me that i am grateful that i can be strong and take my dogs for walks and listen to showtunes and know that everything will be ok. peace and love to every reader out there!

  36. mlinky says:

    Thank you for the honesty and the reminder that we have things to be thankful for.

  37. Kamila says:

    I am grateful for so much this year and it’s the simple things: health, freedom, love and friendship. Oh – and Obama being re-elected ;)

    Thanks for this awesome blog Ms. France. You have a way of stripping it all down and I appreciate that.

  38. Liz Kennedy says:

    Thankful for your blog and its gentle reminder that you can still be fashionable and not be anchored to the Logo Look. Keep it up, Kim!

  39. Laura says:

    Thank you Kim for your wonderful blog and particularly for your Thanksgiving post–we are all struggling in our own ways. It is the human condition! I am most grateful for my husband and two teenage boys, but also for breaking free of the terrible dysfunction of my “family of origin” and finding happiness in the present moment.

  40. Rosemary says:

    Keep on keepin on, love this blog and fo sure Homeland is in danger of shark jumping, the 2nd Gettysburg massacre?

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